There are days when the world seems rosy. It could be a rainy day or the sun is high up in the skies, a sunrise by the beach or just snuggling up to your partner while watching his sleepy face, or just the day after your head has been ravaged by a headache, but each such moment is worth savoring. Yet, there are days when even a silly comment or someone’s banter drives you up the wall, when you yell at someone insanely for something minor. When you sit back and think later, the actual thing which caused you to erupt was actually so trivial it may make you feel rather foolish. Perhaps, it is the perspective that needs modification. Do we need a fresh way to see things?
Here are three things I would do to change the way I see things:
Cultivate positivity and trust: While the world is on the path of paranoia and distrust, wars and battles, insecurities and jealousies, it would be a welcome change to see things with optimism. I certainly would like to feel more positive and trust more easily. Before I go out and blame the world and its citizens for my misery, I think I will begin at home. If news affect me, I need to detach myself. If only negativity floods social media then why am I adding to it or getting affected by it? So, I guess, what I am saying is that I need to see better. I need to be more relaxed and easy going and not beat myself over every minor thing. I think positivity will naturally flow. I also need to do this because I don’t want my children growing up believing that doom is about to descend upon this world. I want them to still believe in the larger goodness of human beings. There are so many things to enjoy. We just need to get better vision.
Strive for mindfulness: Personally, I feel that there are times when I am just doing too many things at a time. Reading my book and checking my mails every few minutes. Watching a TV program and simultaneously glancing at my phone. Eating my food while my mind is focused on something else. It is not as if I am a jet setter or working every minute. It is just that I’ve become so used to multitasking or being preoccupied by things simultaneously. How do we do justice to even one task then? How can we be productive at our work if we are constantly engaging with our smartphone? But who will draw the line? You and I. Hence, I need to do things mindfully. Eat and look at the food. Talk to the kids and actually listen to them and respond. When I am doing my work, I need to be there completely and this applies to umpteen other activities. Mindfulness and being there in the moment is what I am trying to achieve. I am sure, it will help me focus better, be more aware and certainly be happier. It will change the way I do and see things.
Take charge: I’ve realized that all of us are really good at armchair activism. We all know what exactly are the problems around us and know the solutions as well. Cynicism and frustration sets in when we don’t see things happening or changing the way we want them to. I think the disconnect is somewhere in us not knowing the full picture and the challenges that accompany implementation of any change. The only way to bridge this gap is by doing something on the ground. Volunteer in a social initiative, with an NGO, in your own community, teach a child during weekends, support causes both by spreading awareness and by contributing and so on and so forth. This will help bring empathy in us and a better understanding of dealing with social issues. I have been doing this in small measures since a long time now. Not only does this give immense satisfaction but it is also the only way in which we can contribute to nation building. I wish all of us would do that. Trust me, it will change the way we see things.
The video above will let you see things completely differently. Do watch it. It is really short. How often we take things we have for granted? The power to see things one way or the other is a precious gift. Let’s all play this game of stare and blink that we played in the childhood. Only this time, we pledge something more. We pledge our eyes, the gift of precious sight for someone else who will see long after you and I are gone. I have pledged my eyes. Would you #Dare2Stare?
Some facts about eye donation
- Only corneal blind people are benefitted from donated eyes.
- Corneal blindness is the loss of sight due to damage in the tissue covering the front of eye called cornea.
- Anyone can donate their eyes irrespective of age,sex and blood group.
- The cornea should be removed within an hour of death.
- Every eye donated can save the vision of two corneal blind people
- Donated eyes are never bought or sold.
Please pledge your eyes today and become a registered eye donor. Do you take my challenge to #Dare2Stare?
Eye pic courtesy: Freedigitalphotos.net






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