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Reema was always this perfect person I admired. She had the grace and beauty of an actress and the poise of a gymnast. A beautiful soul, she seemed to live her life on her own terms. She was among the first few people whose blog I visited. She seemed very nice and genuinely caring. And, her views always were so pragmatic. She could spit fire when it came to issues close to her heart. That quality I admired and tried to emulate. Wow, with puppy eyes, I looked at the number of followers she had. “Is it even possible to have so many people like your blog?” I thought.

 

Then she became my friend on Facebook. Every update she put up immediately got number of comments and likes. Every picture of hers got her amazing “oohs” and “aahs.” I was a little jealous of her too. It seemed that she led a picture perfect life. She had a great job and a loving husband.

 

Then, one fine day I noticed that an “always online” person like her had gone quiet. There were no posts, no status updates. I messaged her after a couple of days but received no reply. I was curious but not too worried. She might be taking a well-deserved vacation I thought. And then a friend forwarded a news item in one of the online magazines. She was in hospital in coma. She was fighting for life. I gasped when I saw that picture. She looked very different from her online persona.

 

The news item mentioned that the lady had tried to commit suicide. What could have gone wrong? She led a perfect life. The article mentioned that her husband was a womanizer contrary to what she had projected in her lovely relationship blogs. She was suffering from domestic abuse since quite some time. She was struggling with depression and weight issues as well. And, the final straw before she consumed an overdose of sleeping pills was the loss of her job. Alone, helpless and with no friends except of the virtual kind who anyway knew a different her, she took the decision to take her life.

 

Is this virtual world a chimera? Is projection the name of the game? Photo shopped pictures, lovey dovey comments, socially indignant individuals – do they exist? Or, is it just a means of escape for some desperate souls crying out for help?

* This is a work of fiction

Pic courtesy: Freedigitalphotos.net

131 responses to “The Perfect Blogger!”

  1. Obsessivemom Avatar

    That was sad. Whether it’s the real world or the virtual one people don’t like to exhibit their vulnerabilities. Makes me wonder how much I really know my friends.

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    1. Rachna Avatar

      You know, I entertain such thoughts too. Unless I have a relationship with them in the real world, I cannot say, right? Thank you so much, obsessivemom.

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  2. Uppal Avatar

    Hi Rachna,A very thought provoking post.Congratulations.:)))

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    1. Rachna Avatar

      Thank you so much, Uppal!

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  3. TTT Avatar

    at times ppl forget the line between virtual and real life. They start living completely in their virtual/make believe world .But how long can they go on living in their make believe world ? its when the harsh realities of real world strikes that they take such extremes steps.

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    1. Rachna Avatar

      I agree TTT! That is what I feel as well.

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  4. Rajesh Asarpota Avatar

    It is indeed suprising how many people feel so dependent on living in the vitrual world.

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    1. Rachna Avatar

      Virtual world is great for connecting, meeting new people and building contacts. But, at the end of the day when I am sitting dejected or sick, it is the people close to me who take care not those sitting away on their computers. I hope we all realize this.

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  5. Purba Avatar

    Scary if true. I am aware that for many online forums is an escape from reality. Hungry for approval, projecting something they are not. But I’d like to believe that it’s an exception rather than the norm.Most of the people I’ve connected and met with, through my blog, are strong individuals with a mind of their own.

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    1. Rachna Avatar

      Yep, if true it can be really bad. And, I share your experience. I have met some warmest, nicest people through my blog. On my FB profile, I do come across some who are always blowing their trumpet, but I guess they must be doing it even in their real lives :).

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  6. Tomz Avatar

    I just read a another short story in a different blog..read it here http://jyothismusings.com/2012/10/01/if-only/Both are the reflection of online double life nowadays people tend to have

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    1. Rachna Avatar

      I read that story on Jyothi’s blog. I am sure many such stories will stem from the online world as it becomes more popular.

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  7. BK Chowla, Avatar

    Rachana,surprisingly,it is a second time my comments are disappearing from your blog.I must solve this Mystery

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    1. Rachna Avatar

      Karamchand on the job :).I will check the spam folder.

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  8. R. Ramesh Avatar

    sorry late here..very touching post..i accept that some may indeed be projections..but to generalise may create problems..there are quite a few bloggers who write from their heart, factual and sincere..they deserve their slot..hope they get it, right na rachna..

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    1. Rachna Avatar

      I agree Ramesh. This is just a fictional story. I personally have met such good and positive bloggers myself.

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  9. sharmila Avatar

    Where did my comment go?:( Unreal projections are a reflection of unfulfilled expectations and many a times people do get carried away in the virtual world.I have come across both types in my short journey through blogworld.A very well written post Rachna !

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    1. Rachna Avatar

      Thank you Sharmila. I have seen loudmouths too but mostly on FB. I guess being sensible is the key. I am wondering how these comments are disappearing scratches the head.

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  10. Kavita Saharia Avatar

    Scary but very true. On the other hand I know some people who are great at their job and are leading a purposeful life but hardly talk or show it on social sites. Hi bolne ko aaye , hope you are doing good.

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    1. Rachna Avatar

      And, don’t I wish that we could go back to that life. Hi Kavita. How are you? So long. I was just thinking of you the other day. Hope you are good too.

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  11. Destiny's child... Avatar

    I almost skipped the last line – that it’s a fictitious piece. But I wouldn’t be surprised if this were real. Dark and depressing, but dangerously close to the truth. Great post, Rachna!

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  12. ddeepa Avatar
    ddeepa

    Or maybe it is a make-believe world that one wants, desperately wants so much so that they’re ready to build the world themselves but then it gets so much different than the real world we live in, that someday the slightest weight on it and everything comes crashing down 😦 I wish the virtual world were a direct reflection of our real world, that people were more direct, that they could just speak what they felt and mean what they said, that we do not ever have to have a separate virtual profile but I doubt that would ever happen.
    Cheers,
    Deepa – 10 Reasons Why I Didn’t Post

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    1. Rachna Avatar

      Agree. Sometimes, virtual identity is an escape. And, like real life too, you cannot take all at face value. As a matter of fact, one should not.

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