Life is all about expectations. Expectations with oneself, with one’s partner, with one’s children, and so on. And, what are these expectations culled from? Sometimes, sources as vague as movies, magazines, other’s experiences, and books. What most of us don’t realize is that the world around us is one of make believe. All of us are projecting an image. People have expectations from relationships based upon the books they read or the movies they see. Come on, in real life, it does not work that way. Can I look dreamy eyed around my husband all the while, perfectly made up and smiling. I cannot! So, can I expect him to be lovey dovey and romantic all the time like the movies. Of course, not. Remember movie stars are paid to do that :). They wouldn’t be doing all that for their wives or girlfriends, you can be sure. And, these scams are perpetuated and successfully run by greeting card companies, jewelry makers etc. and influencing the minds of the young to behave in a particular way.
In magazines and books, you see reed-thin models, and you embark upon desperate measures to become slim, sometimes dangerous ones like fad dieting adversely affecting your health. It has become maniacal this obsession with looks. What we don’t realize is that most of these people are miracles of cosmetic surgery, advances in make up, lighting and extraordinary clothes. See them in real life, and you might need to run for cover :). Please be realistic about what is healthy and what makes you look good.
It is important to separate the fiction from reality. Somewhere in the rush to demand, we are all forgetting to give, to forgive, and as a result are leaving permanent fissures in our relationships. Never say that I miss those initial days of dating or marriage. Ok, you may say that but don’t go into depression feeling that something must have gone wrong for you not to stay perpetually in that first flush of love. I remember a blogger said that those were just the trailers or the best portions of the movie. When you actually live a life together, it is the actual movie, which plays out with all its flaws and its beauty. The problem does not lie with the movie but in our expectations. So get real, and life does become so much more fun and enjoyable :).
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