You know sometimes in my own life, I feel I get too accommodating towards the people close to me — friends and relatives. I go out of my way to resolve conflicts even when I know that it is not my fault. I generally do not like bad situations persisting and try to resolve them. What I have ended up doing is that people in many cases expect that I will continue to do that. I will continue to give in no matter how unreasonable the demand. I think it is high time that I started dealing with situations in the same practical way but giving myself the leeway to feel hurt, show anger and to make sure that the other person understands his/her mistake. Otherwise, despite acknowledging that “oh, I was wrong” and ” that I can be very mean when angry”; I see absolutely no change in behavior.
I also have to know how much to bend, where exactly does my happiness lie? I think the good thing about me is that I am open to criticism and am able to meaningfully use it too. Just that sometimes I go overboard in accommodating people and that has to stop. I am not perfect and yes, I do make mistakes. But this is just the way I am and way better than most others I know. Maybe I do a lot more thinking than others or maybe it is just a refection of my state of mind :).
Don’t get too concerned :). It is just a personal rant. Sometimes, letting off steam really helps.
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